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It is critical to communicate with the other family members. They need to know what is going on too. It is equally hard on them as they want to be able to help but many can’t due to circumstances – maybe they live somewhere else, health issues, jobs, family commitments, etc. Just because they are not there does not mean they do not care.
I set up a Facebook group for my brothers, kids, nieces and nephews so that I could posts about the good and the bad. Naturally I also phoned them but sometimes something came to me in the middle of the night or when they might be at work. It was also hard to remember who I told what to so I was repeating myself.
Involve them in decisions. It is not all on your shoulders. It will make you all feel better if it is a shared mental task.
When my mother-in-law was dying, we took a notebook up and whomever was there at the time would write down what the doctors or nurses said or funny things Ann said. We put down different feelings and then when the next person came in, they could just read down through it. I still look at it from time to time.
Whatever works for you, communicate as a family. This is a hard time for everyone and you all need each other.