DO IT NOW!

do-it-now

 

I have been struggling with thinking time is short lately.  No, I don’t think I am dying or being depressed but I need to get moving on things i want to accomplish NOW.  So, I am making some serious changes and will be documenting the successes and failures here.  I hope they might inspire some of you to do the same.

That Dreaded “D” Word – DIET

When I use to hear that word, I just shuddered.  You mean eat all that stuff that had no flavor, no sugar, no fun?

But, diet is now a way of life for a lot of people.  If you stop to think of it, our ancestors did not eat like we do and they had a much more active life than we do.  So, basically, we are going back to the way it was when life was simpler.

There are so many diets out there that I wouldn’t even think of saying what the right one was.  Some people do the no carb one, some do the vegan one, some do the one where nothing can come out of a box.  You have to research and pick the best one for you and your lifestyle.

I recently went through several of my fast food store’s websites so that I could pick the least harmful thing to eat.  It might really surprise you what sandwiches are actually less calories than that salad you were going to eat.  I made some notes in a little book I keep in my purse and then when I know I am going somewhere I can check it out and make a wiser decision.  I can’t wait until I am in line and then hold the line up while I am trying to read the calories on the order board.

Another thing that just stunned me was portion sizes.  I thought we had been eating somewhat healthy until my nutritionist showed me plastic models of what 1 serving was.  I think everyone would be shocked.  Just google it some time.  I think we were eating at least 2 – 3 times more pasta than what we should have been.

I am not going to sit here and tell you that we have made all the life changes we need and now are down to the correct weights.  That would be a BIG lie.  We are making small changes which include portion control.  I even bought one of those sets off Amazon where it gives you different size and colored containers so you know how much of each type of food you should eat.

But, bottom line, we probably all could stand to lose some weight.  We all have different reasons.  For me it is about the fear of someone having to take care of me at my current size.

Losing weight gets harder the older you are. So, for us, the time is now.

So, if you pass that overweight woman walking or riding a bike while you are driving your car, just remember, at least she is off her tush and trying to do something about it.

 

What diets of lifestyle changes have you made to become healthier?  Share with us your knowledge so we can all become healthier.

 

Just Do It – Learning a new skill

Just do it!

One of the things in my life that I have been wanting to do for a long time is trying to do some crafts. I am not someone who has a lot of talent in the area (unless it is well hidden). I decided to put my ‘money where my mouth is’ and use this method to get going.

There are many reasons (excuses) you may be avoiding doing these things. I have thought a lot about this and these are my biggest ones:

  1. Fear of failure
    1. This is definitely one for me on this project. I have tried different craft projects in the past and they look nowhere what the example shows. Have you seen those pictures of Pinterest fails that float around from time to time? But does it matter what it looks like if it brings you pleasure or helps you to relax?
  2. No time
    1. This is another great excuse for me. I just have no time but in reality I could be doing this in the evening instead of watching tv. Depending on the craft you pick, you can do it while watching tv.
  3. Don’t know where to start
    1. It is easy to say that you don’t know where to start or what pattern to start with, etc. But, that is just an excuse. With the internet, pinterest, youtube there are patterns everywhere.

 

Below are a few steps that MIGHT make it easier for you:

  1. Stop and think of why you are avoiding it. I would like to be able to do things as easily as some of my friends. They just throw something together and it looks great. I have to really work on craft projects. But reality is I just have to work harder on it. Everyone has different things they are good at.
  2. Break it into small steps. I decided that I am going to start with a simple crochet project that is the basic step. I already know how to crochet from my younger days but haven’t done it in years. So, I took the time to hunt up a simple pattern on Pinterest. I do warn you that getting on Pinterest is dangerous as you can spend WAY too much time on there.
  3. Get the materials together.   I had to dig out my crochet hooks and yarn. Sime I am testing my skills, I did not rush out and buy new supplies.
  4. Make the time. I am going to do this in the evenings while my husband and I watch TV after supper. Since this is an easy pattern, I hope to be able to do it without a lot of though. We will see.

It can be done. It will make you feel better. You do not have to be great at it, just enjoy it.  This could apply to a craft or even a new start of educationWe reinvent ourselves many time during our time here so make it fun!

So, get off your duff and do it!

Just do it – Having the talk with your parents about their wishes during aging

Hopefully, many of you still have your parents living. One of the biggest gifts you can give them is to make sure you will be able to take care of them in the event they can’t take care of themselves. This can be a very hard thing to do.

Most people do not want to face the fact that we all do not live forever. Aging is something we all do but when it is our parents it is especially hard to face. They are supposed to live forever, right? Each family is different so you might be able to skip over a lot of this. Or you may have to add many steps. You just have to tailor this to your situation.

Let me share with you why I feel this is an important one, even though my parents are both gone. I have a friend who is going through a hard time as her parent has consistently refused to let her do anything that might help with this. She has tried over the years and now that her parent is having problems, she is powerless to help without getting the legal system involved. Although she does not want to have to do this, she has to for the safety of her parent.

Her parent will not tell her any financial information – “I have taken care of myself all these years and I do not need you to tell me what to do” but her taxes are not being paid on her home. She has no control over her parent’s medical care and needs it badly as her parent is obviously not taking her medication. Her parent will not let her even take her shopping for groceries.

Naturally, this is causing a lot of stress. What is actually concern on her part is being seen as a control issue by the parent. This could be dementia setting in but watching a love one go downhill with no way to step in and help is devastating when it could be avoided.

My mother was one of the people who wanted to make sure that things were taken care of. She also is the one who use to tell me to “get off your duff and do it”. Keep in mind that even though you try to do this, it may not work. But, you will feel better for having tried.

  1. Figure out why you are avoiding it.
    1. I can think of several reasons. First you may not want to accept that you need to do this. After all, we all want our parents to live forever.
    2. You do not want to hurt your parents. This is valid but it might hurt worse to see your parents in a situation where you cannot step in to help.
    3. Your siblings may think you are sticking your nose in where it doesn’t belong.
    4. You don’t know where to start.
  2. Break it into small steps.
    1. Accept that this has to happen. I could tell you horror stories of families that do not do this and then their parent’s wishes were not followed.
    2. Think of the way to approach it. If you have a plan, it will be much easier and helpful than just blurting it out one day.
    3. Do some research for your state as to the legal steps needed. This can be as simple as going onto the internet to see what is required. Of course we all know that just because it is on the internet does not mean it is true. Another place to check is with your friends that may be going through the same process.
    4. Talk to your siblings. This is especially important if they do not live close and it will be your responsibility to physically take care of your parent.   Maybe you are the one they talk to about financial matters. Maybe someone else is more into the medical part of their lives.
    5. Work the subject in to the conversations slowly instead of just sitting them down one day and say “we are going to do this”. That approach usually won’t work and may make them just shut down the whole subject.
    6. Work up to the point of discussing each point. Things I would suggest are end of life decisions, power of attorney for both medical and financial transactions, funeral arrangements, will, etc.
    7. Make sure it is done through an attorney. Even though you may know what your parents want, it if it not written down in a legal manner, you may not be able to make it happen.
  3. Get the materials together.
    1. I covered this in step 2 but basically it is researching your state’s laws, discussing with family members, etc. You could also talk to an estate lawyer, read different books or articles on the subject and many other steps but do not let this be a stopping place or a place to get bogged down.
  4. Just do it.
    1. Get off your duff and do it!

 

While you are at it, think about this for yourself. No matter what your age, you should have these legal matters taken care of. I would like to live forever but I won’t. We have this taken care of and my children are well aware of what I want to happen. There will be no fighting about anything as it is all taken care of. This actually gave me peace of mind as I don’t want them to have to guess at what I wanted.

Just Do IT – get started today

We all have this list of things we have been putting off for a long time. It is on our mental to do list and from time to time, we think about it but that is about all we do. It can be something major like cleaning out a drawer to something major like having the talk with our parents about the fact they are aging. A lot of this will depend on what stage of life you are in but the steps are basically the same.

Maybe these thoughts just flit through your mind, maybe you even make a list of them and maybe they wake you up in the middle of the night thinking about them….like at 2 p.m. and keep you awake until you do something.

There are many reasons (excuses) you may be avoiding doing these things. I have thought a lot about this and these are my biggest ones:

  1. Fear of failure
  2. Fear of response
  3. No time
  4. Laziness
  5. Don’t know where to start

 

Below are a few steps that MIGHT make it easier for you:

  1. Stop and think of why you are avoiding it. If the reason is that you don’t know where to start, stop long enough to figure it out.
  2. Break it into small steps. Do not try something like “getting organized”. Instead try clean out the junk drawer in the kitchen. Then move on to another area.
  3. Get the materials together.   This could mean physical supplies or it could mean researching what you are going to do so that you will not fail.
  4. Make the time. We all have time during the week that we basically waste. My biggest one is Facebook.

Of course, these are easy to say and not so easy to do. Over the next several posts, I am going to go step by step through some of the ones I can actually say I have done or am going to do.

It can be done. It will make you feel better. (Maybe it will make you sleep better).

So, get off your duff and do it!